Dear Abby: Sis makes elderly mom’s life a living hell
Dear Abby I live five hours away from my hometown My mom is and in assisted living there In newest years my younger sister has become cruel to our mom and is trying to take advantage of her Instead of helping Mom she does things to deliberately upset her and raise her blood pressure Two examples putting dog poop on my in recent times deceased brother s grave and stealing a gun from Mom s home She also threatened to remove Mom s recliner from her while she was sitting in it My sister has caused major issues at the assisted living facility which greatly upsets my poor mother since she loves the care she gets there My older brother and I have met with an attorney to get an order of no-trespass no-contact at Mom s facility It s still in the process My sister puts on a totally different mask at her church and has everyone believing she s a victim What do you suggest we do in the future with this out-of-control full of hate sibling Ashamed Sis in Ontario Canada Dear Sis The term for what your sister has been doing is elder abuse Stealing and threatening to do something that would cause great bodily harm qualifies Continue working with the attorney on the no-contact order and let the process play out Your mother s doctors should be communicated what has been going on What the worshippers in her church think about her should be of no consequence Dear Abby I m and have been married for years I have two kids ages and Both are on their own living their own lives My wife is She has a -year-old son who has a four-year degree in computer science and asserts he can t find a job He refuses to look for other employment to fill in until something opens up in computers He stays up half the night getting high and playing games online and sleeps until noon He has a considerable amount in his savings and is able to play the stock arena so it s not like he s broke and can t start living on his own My wife won t let go because he s her only child She and I have no alone time no romantic nights and no dinners without him included He s consistently here and involved in everything and I m tired of it I have reached a point in my life where I want to enjoy my time with my wife alone We are shopping for a new house but I m ready to say we buy a house together alone just the two of us or I m filing for divorce and buying a house by myself I feel it s way past time for him to be weaned from his mother and get his own life Do you agree or am I being overly sensitive Over It in Arizona Dear Over It You are not being overly sensitive Your wife appears to have a serious situation of separation anxiety when it comes to her son which is healthy for neither I assume you have discussed this with her to no avail If that s not true you should If it IS true then it s time for marriage and family therapy with someone who is licensed If your wife refuses to go the alternative would be to schedule an appointment with an attorney who can help you untie the knot Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
