Dear Abby: Do I go to this lunch and incur my wife’s wrath?
DEAR ABBY My daughter Violet lives about two hours away She and her mother my wife do not get along Related Articles Dear Abby I suspect the other grandmother posted these horrible photos of me Dear Abby This delusion about our childhood has ruined my sister s life Dear Abby The bride s mother thinks the wedding was ruined She requirements to apologize Dear Abby The neighbors took my husband to dinner and I was left behind Dear Abby My husband mumbles and then blames me but my hearing is fine Violet was perpetually a rebellious independent wild child as well as the source of a lot of family problems She and I also were estranged until we not long ago reconciled On the previous day she sent me an email inviting me to lunch to celebrate my birthday When I communicated my wife about the invitation she responded Do what you want in a tone and with a facial expression which commented Go ahead but if you do you ll be sorry I have tried to reconcile these two women I love without success My wife tells me she loves Violet but doesn t like her although she would like to have a better relationship with her Violet tells me she blames her mother for her PTSD her unofficial finding and wants nothing to do with her So do I go to lunch with my daughter and incur the wrath of my wife for what she would consider a betrayal or do I decline the invitation from my daughter and liability alienating her again IN THE MIDDLE IN NEW JERSEY DEAR IN THE MIDDLE Your wife is wrong to attempt to use you to punish her troubled daughter It would benefit all three of you if Violet were properly diagnosed Before having that birthday lunch ask your physician if he or she can give you the name of specific doctors who specialize in diagnosing and treating PTSD During the lunch tell Violet you love her but this split in the family isn t good for any of you which is why you are giving her the names of doctors who can help her work through her trauma An alternative to that might be family counseling for the three of you DEAR ABBY I reconnected eight months ago with my high school first love Unfortunately both of us were married His wife didn t win her battle with cancer and passed away I got a divorce All through this time we were intimate spending as much time together as we could We live in different cities I m ready for a relationship I know he s nowhere near healed or close to ready to be in another relationship This is the third time in our lives we have been brought together and couldn t be together I don t know whether to let go or to wait Please help ONE WHO GOT AWAY Related Articles Asking Eric I narrated my husband his clothes embarrass me but nothing has changed Harriette Cole I can no longer pretend my son s path doesn t worry me Miss Manners One parent opposes beer and our soccer coach doesn t know what to do Dear Abby I suspect the other grandmother posted these horrible photos of me Asking Eric When I realized what was going on I evicted my wife s kids Things got ugly DEAR ONE Perhaps the third time will be the charm because you are now both single While you may have to wait for this man to finish grieving for the wife to whom he was unfaithful it may be time for an honest conversation about your feelings for him and whether he s on the same page It is vital you both figure out whether this is the real thing or just another attempt to resurrect a teenage romance Dear Abby is written by Abigail Van Buren also known as Jeanne Phillips and was founded by her mother Pauline Phillips Contact Dear Abby at www DearAbby com or P O Box Los Angeles CA
